He's been working a shitty service job but is about to move to a bigger deal programming job. I definitely could relate the struggles of working to the bigger picture, I have already talked to him about shorter work weeks which he agreed with so maybe that's a good sign I could reach him, or maybe he is more left than he appears
I'm somewhat getting the vibe that he's that kind of lib but it's hard to tell. I was talking about how a shorter work week would be great but the people in power would never make those changes, and he said it's good to be hopeful because more people are voting. And then I said that it's hard to feel optimistic about voting when those same people control what we vote for, and he said I have a good point. So perhaps a good sign
Yeah if they were the sort of lib that really believed in that ideology and refused to budge I wouldn't really be into it, it's just hard to read if someone is that kind of lib or the kind of lib that hasn't thought much about politics yet and would be receptive to radicalization
You're probably right about trying to accept them as-is. I think I am just afraid of not being accepted as-is for my beliefs, in which case it would be better to get that out of the way first, as you said before. Thank you for your insights
You're right, he probably isn't aware of it. But if he is aware and it is somehow a plus for him, if the militaristic aspects are why he likes it, I would definitely want to know and not talk to him further. But maybe this is like a third date topic lmao
I do generally agree with this, but I started my last relationship way more liberal than I am now and he was able to slowly radicalize me over time by bringing up controversial topics later on and in more digestible ways. So maybe I should aim to do that for others?
Thanks for your reply, that does make sense. I'm only doing online dating on apps right now since I am socially awkward and org meetings of any kind have never lead to any friendships let alone any dates unfortunately. Having similar ideology to the person I date is pretty important to me, but tinder has been my best bet for getting dates and it's mostly libs on there
Another detail to this is that when we were texting he mentioned that he really likes marvel movies and I didn't say anything, but I was thinking about how I really dislike them because they are used as propaganda for the us military and have even explicitly partnered with the military, so if he brings up marvel movies in person I'll have to say I don't like them and explain why, but that's opening a whole can of worms about hating the military and is that really something to get into on a first date? But also I can't fuck with someone who supports the military so... do I talk about it anyway? I am confusion
That's true. But I wasn't even playing with a random online group; a dude I've been talking to invited me to play with his irl friend group and he has seemed very normal and chill so I thought his friends would be too. guess not
I really feel that. I thought for sure I was getting out after the 3 days because I did everything they asked and I legitimately didn't want to die anymore and told them how much better I was feeling.... but then they kept me for another week and that took me back to feeling hopeless and now I feel like I can never truly confide in a therapist again
I'm the same as I was 4 years ago except less optimistic about the world and future since I learned of the reality of how fucked capitalism is. But I just discovered chapo chat today so that's something positive I guess :)
He's been working a shitty service job but is about to move to a bigger deal programming job. I definitely could relate the struggles of working to the bigger picture, I have already talked to him about shorter work weeks which he agreed with so maybe that's a good sign I could reach him, or maybe he is more left than he appears