Oh wow that is SO AWKWARD. Yeah, I definitely know better than your boss to do something like that. Even if they didn't spin out I feel like saying "I don't know what i would do if..." can already turn the attention around so I try to avoid it
I think I tend to connect with people Moreso on past events than current ones, but a good rule of thumb to try to keep in mind
Thanks for that, I think asking what their needs are is probably a good segue. I don't think anyone has ever said that I'm being self centered directly, but I have lost friendships and people refused to tell me what I did wrong soooo who knows what people really feel. Just sucks too, to have to be the person to ask what the other needs when that's not afforded to you
such is the life of an AuDHDer tho
Oh no not at all! I agree with you tbh, but yeah a lot of people just take communication styles for granted, I'm sure I do. It just sucks that people don't get it, and that it's hard for me to wrap my head around
That's exactly why I'm puzzled about it! The standard issue responses don't feel genuine, or like you want the other person to open up more. But I guess that's all people want, usually. Surface shit
Usually I'd only share something like that in a one on one setting, I think. And usually after I share I'll say something like "all that to say I really relate to the pain/frustration/sadness and can't imagine blablabla". Would that still be annoying though?
Hm, well it doesn't feel like, shallow to just get the "that must have been hard" standard issue comment after sharing something vulnerable? To me that just kinda feels dismissive, like the person saying "that must have been hard" is offput, or it would stop the conversation
Yeah, but I guess I wanna hear from someone who is NT how they perceive it when it happens. A lot of people just aren't direct at all so I feel it would be more likely that someone would just pull away or share less with me or other people who communicate that way. I also hear this often but haven't heard that it's off putting directly from an NT person before so I just wanna know what goes through each person's mind and if the way I circle back is helpful or not
Wonder if there is an audio book, gotta check! I just wonder what the man's turning point was, sounds like his parents were pretty unhinged so that probably has a lot to do with it
Yeah, that's how I've always viewed it even before considering I had an Autism or ADHD diagnosis, it's just very difficult for me to see it as anything but. I hate that it comes off that way and it's soooo hard for me to just shut the fuck up and not say anything lol. Like just saying "I'm sorry", "that sucks", "that must have been hard" makes me feel like I'm therapizing that person, and it just feels so impersonal!
No you needed to listen to some red-blooded American killing music like "Nice Shot". No sissy British music (jk)
(Took me squeezing my one braincell as hard as I could to get the reference lol La Roux is great)
Lollll i think you just posted this in another thread which prompted me to look into who the hell this man is. I'm disappointed that there isn't a movie made about him
the fact that there seem to be so many people who were down to just chill 100 feet away from a fucking tornado is wild to me, I would be pissing my pants
They slurped up all the feel good chemicals leaving us with mere morsels. It's like how I cannot fathom that there are people out there who aren't constantly thinking about everything all at once at every hour of the day. That their brains can be quiet just does not make sense to me at all.
Well at least us saddies are supposed to be smart and/or artists or whatever the stereotype is
Wish it weren't though 
I feel you on that. Like I experience fleeting moments of happiness. Maybe I'll have a day or two where I think I'm experiencing feeling "happy" or "content", but how the fuck people just feel that way normally is just a mystery to me. Meds just help me from being stuck-in-bed, crying-in-the-walk-in-at-work depressed but yeah, mostly just kinda neutral or dysthymic a lot of the time
Seriously, "Black Sabbath" gives me chills every time I listen to it. Sooooo ahead of their time, can't even imagine what metal would look like now without them
The picture of healthy masculinity. Definitely made me want to cry when I first watched it
Love that they were making some of the heaviest music of all time while wearing jumpsuits and shit lol
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