So, why is this the case? The ultimate goal of online dating apps should be to function as a conduit in creating committed relationships, right? Wrong. The realm of online dating has become a multi-billion dollar industry — an industry that profits primarily off of user addiction, especially by keeping its users single. The way that the industry accomplishes this is twofold, relying on qualities of gamification and what psychologist Barry Schwartz refers to as the “paradox of choice.”
The presence of the choice paradox in online dating is perhaps best understood through the analogy of online shopping. Studies have shown that as shoppers are exposed to more options for potential purchases, they are paradoxically less likely to be satisfied with their ultimate decision. As our brains become inundated with a variety of choices, we often experience choice paralysis: An anxiety-induced state that prevents us from making a resounding decision.
On Tinder, the user’s experience of choice overload has become a frequent occurrence. In the emergence of what some are calling “serial swipers,” many users can be seen displaying strong hesitations to commit to a singular option due to fears of missing out on a potentially better one.
The infiltration of the choice paradox into the realm of relationships is especially dangerous. Unlike the case of online shopping, users aren’t choosing between products, they’re choosing between people. The resulting world of online dating has become a breeding ground for objectification, sexual harassment and insecurity, as choices are increasingly influenced by abundance and appearances rather than genuine compatibility.
The instant gratification offered by each ‘match’ causes the idea of exclusivity to appear unsettling, with many individuals remaining addicted to these apps even in committed relationships. Specifically, 30% of Tinder users are married, and another 12% are in relationships. Because of this, the online dating world has become a hotbed for cheating and noncommittal sex. Users find themselves immersed in an endless, twisted game, where matches and hookups function as points to keep score.
cool, I have all of this except understanding how to take a good picture.
maybe you could ask a friend who's good at social media to snap a few pictures of you?
I haven't had a friend IRL for like 14 years :deeper-sadness:
literally nobody to snap a picture of me or even hang out with...
:agony-deep: sorry to hit a sore spot comrade.
oh no, it's fine. I just don't even know where to begin fixing myself. lol
You're not disproving my point, you know.
Heck, I only said 80%, you've upped that to 95%.
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Yeah but it isnt hard to be in the top 5%. Like, it really isnt.
It's hard enough that 95% of men are incapable of it.
because the culture is fucked.
It's going to be difficult for any man to be in the top 5% no matter what. That's how percentages work.
as soon as men stop sending casual threats of violence to women that scale would be re-evaluated. dont be so fucking stupid.
The top 5% will always be the top 5%. The bottom 95% will always be there. You can't suddenly put 50% of men into the top 5%. You can re-evaluate all you want and percentages don't change.
Don't call me fucking stupid. What we have here is innumeracy.
You're stupid as fuck :shrug-outta-hecks:
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We are posting in a forum that is very inclusive but kinda selects for people in the top 5% of geographic and historical literacy. Less than 1% of people can really be said to be like us. We're used to this idea.
Lake Wobegon, where all the children are above average
Possible for virtually all the children to be above average if there's one child that catastrophically sucks
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But i hate fashion
If you wear just a basic tshirt and pants that are clean thats fine. Be sure they fit you right and youre all good.
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