As a thigh high cat-girl, I really don't appreciate that it's turned us into a stereotype. It's genuinely upsetting. Only my online friends and the folks I'm close to were supposed to know that about me and now it's the first thing anyone assumes.
Sorry to be blunt here, but i find rejection of catgirl culture has mysogynist undertones waaaaayyy too often. That goes for anything that's publicly considered to be too girly and i'm not having that. That's not directed at you, but it absolutely is directed at people like ContraPoints who suffers from so much internalised transmysogyny that she can only live out her catgirl side ironically, and it is even moreso directed at r/196 and other cis liberals complaining about the issue because it makes them uncomfortable. Trans girls have a right to be saccharine and cutesy online, many of us need to go through a phase were we violently reject masculinity and that can't always involve becoming a man-hating feminist like it did for me, it can also mean lots of uWu posting and that's ok as well. It's also worth considering that to demand from members of your community not to be a stereotype because it makes us look bad is a form of assimilationism, it is not compatible with approaches aiming for actual queer liberation.
Like i said, i don't intend this as an accusation towards you. I'm just saying that critique of catgirl culture has problematic aspects to it and that i have to reject it when it comes from certain people.
Don't get me wrong, i get your point and it's honestly exhausting to chat with these girls if you're like me and don't have a folder full of anime gifs with an entire subfolder dedicated to headpats, i'm just saying that being queer should be about accepting the harmless weirdness of other people.
LGBT is when you post shitty Reddit memes about being a heccin thigh highs catgirl programmer and nothing else
Am I the only one who finds those memes infantilising?
As a thigh high cat-girl, I really don't appreciate that it's turned us into a stereotype. It's genuinely upsetting. Only my online friends and the folks I'm close to were supposed to know that about me and now it's the first thing anyone assumes.
I just got thigh highs 'cos they're comfy and helpful for keeping warm in the winter. Now everyone assumes I'm some sort of internet catgirl. :(
SAME, thigh high compression socks ftw!
But yeah, like, I AM an Internet cat girl but I don't want people assuming that about me, it feels dirty for some reason
Sorry to be blunt here, but i find rejection of catgirl culture has mysogynist undertones waaaaayyy too often. That goes for anything that's publicly considered to be too girly and i'm not having that. That's not directed at you, but it absolutely is directed at people like ContraPoints who suffers from so much internalised transmysogyny that she can only live out her catgirl side ironically, and it is even moreso directed at r/196 and other cis liberals complaining about the issue because it makes them uncomfortable. Trans girls have a right to be saccharine and cutesy online, many of us need to go through a phase were we violently reject masculinity and that can't always involve becoming a man-hating feminist like it did for me, it can also mean lots of uWu posting and that's ok as well. It's also worth considering that to demand from members of your community not to be a stereotype because it makes us look bad is a form of assimilationism, it is not compatible with approaches aiming for actual queer liberation.
Like i said, i don't intend this as an accusation towards you. I'm just saying that critique of catgirl culture has problematic aspects to it and that i have to reject it when it comes from certain people.
These are all very valid points, thank you.
Assimilationism is bullshit pandering to people who'll still hate us all at the end of the day. So, sorry if my previous comments gave that vibe.
Love my trans comrades, simple as.
Don't get me wrong, i get your point and it's honestly exhausting to chat with these girls if you're like me and don't have a folder full of anime gifs with an entire subfolder dedicated to headpats, i'm just saying that being queer should be about accepting the harmless weirdness of other people.