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  • Outdoor_Catgirl [she/her, they/them]
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    10 months ago

    Uhh, I don't know about this one. I do not pass. I look like a clocky ogre. Does that mean I'm a man now? Hell no. But I must try to conform to gender roles of aesthetics, because to not be perfectly feminine as trans woman makes you a subhuman evil creature, whereas doing the same as cis woman merely makes you rebellious/defiant. This just feels like forcing gender roles onto people, but couched in progressive rhetoric. I know nonbinary people who very much present as their agab. That doesn't make them any less nonbinary. I do not like this post and it's implied ideology.

    • infuziSporg [e/em/eir]
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      10 months ago

      I maintain that the mind is superordinate to the body; your woman's brain (that sounds weird but I mean this affirmingly) is what makes you a woman more than anything else. Anatomical mishaps are noise, and in the long run there is still the same signal as a cis person of the same gender. I did not mean to imply in any way that being able to pass perfectly (or even to a majority of people) was any sort of requirement or baseline.

      I have no expertise or deep knowledge of gender; your comment has reminded me of the quandaries that can be involved in it. As it seems to me, the most coherent thing I can say is that gender is often a vector, and what matters most is what direction you're pointed in.