Ah yes, because running executive function from fear is so much better for us than not fitting the normative, fully made-up mode of modern education. Because that is all that is happenimg in those of us who are "high functioning".

These people never actually seem to understand what adhd is, nor do they understand that their norms are all social constructs.

I am an adult audhd mom who decided to not bully my adhd kid to performing the way I had been. He can't do a lot of the things I can and this makes me so happy. It means he wasn't forced to run his entire existence from a place that only leads to burn out, shame and unhealthy coping mechanisms.