this perspective is rooted in not understanding simple things. some people may take feminism to mean "men are bad", but that's an extremely reductive and incorrect catch phrase. as you note, the patriarchy does harm men in some ways, but if you can't get past this vibes based analysis you aren't going to get anywhere with it. especially when you consider the various threats to basic bodily autonomy that women face today, your conclusions are on pretty shaky ground.