Was thinking about this last night. I have friends who I really don’t know anything about on an emotional level because I’ve drilled into my head it’s a conversation meant to be shared in therapy. But there’s also a part of me that sees the value in getting to know people as humans and not just their 9-5 selves. I have fem-presenting friends who seem to be more open to these types of conversations, but I genuinely want to find the line between sharing and over sharing. As a man, It’s pretty depressing to think about tbh, knowing other men for decades but not really knowing anything about them besides their favorite teams or beer.
Is this a thing that’s exclusive to males? Also, if you have any good literature recommendations for this topic please drop below 😅
For me personally, I'm happy to talk about this sort of thing with my friends, but I'm not particularly interested in making friends with my co-workers.
There's being friendly and polite of course, but I'm perfectly happy with my existing social circle and the last thing I want is my professional life starting to leak into my personal one.
If people are only engaging with the 9-5 selves, I would assume they're not too interested in sharing more.
Indeed, makes sense. I have friends I’ve never worked with in my life who only care to talk about things like their job, so to spice things up a little, I ask them questions and usually get them to talking about how they hate it. Usually opens the door for talk of socialism
That’s as far as I’ve gotten with those types, but I would like to understand more like the specifics of what they value in life