I really wanted to post that emoji, but in all seriousness, this is a really interesting observation. I think in some cases it could be some of them trying to deal with their own fucked up childhoods. And then they impose some other kind of misery on the next generation, while pining for some ideal childhood they never had. Generational abuse / trauma on a minor scale maybe?
A story from just yesterday that made me irrationally angry:
Ultra chud at my workplace, drives a massive $60k+ truck, brings in his Black rifle coffee Co thermos every day. You get the idea... A group of us were talking about shoveling snow and he literally says "I don't ever need to worry about EVER doing that because I have two sons and I make them do it!" and laughs of course. Probably if someone else had said it, it would have been said with more levity and I could have laughed it off. But with this guy, I could just tell, he wanted to make these kids miserable. They need to learn how to become MEN so they don't get to have a snow day, they get to shovel for dad!
Another anecdote: dealing with some family issues in regards to my grandfather being shitty to my mother and her siblings. Mom and aunt upset, but dealing with everything with poise and dignity. Uncle, tantrums, anger, drinking, bringing up 50 year old daddy issues. Surprise, surprise, He's politically the most conservative one in the family...
Feels like mommy and daddy issues all around that get passed on down the line. Gets worse and more twisted and bizarre as material conditions deteriorate and suburban fascism intensifies.
A while back someone on here posted a writeup of some study about the parenting styles of Nazi and pre-Nazi Germany and it was all bootstrap shit about leaving crying babies alone so they didn't "learn they could simply cry for attention."
I really wanted to post that emoji, but in all seriousness, this is a really interesting observation. I think in some cases it could be some of them trying to deal with their own fucked up childhoods. And then they impose some other kind of misery on the next generation, while pining for some ideal childhood they never had. Generational abuse / trauma on a minor scale maybe?
A story from just yesterday that made me irrationally angry:
Ultra chud at my workplace, drives a massive $60k+ truck, brings in his Black rifle coffee Co thermos every day. You get the idea... A group of us were talking about shoveling snow and he literally says "I don't ever need to worry about EVER doing that because I have two sons and I make them do it!" and laughs of course. Probably if someone else had said it, it would have been said with more levity and I could have laughed it off. But with this guy, I could just tell, he wanted to make these kids miserable. They need to learn how to become MEN so they don't get to have a snow day, they get to shovel for dad!
Another anecdote: dealing with some family issues in regards to my grandfather being shitty to my mother and her siblings. Mom and aunt upset, but dealing with everything with poise and dignity. Uncle, tantrums, anger, drinking, bringing up 50 year old daddy issues. Surprise, surprise, He's politically the most conservative one in the family...
Feels like mommy and daddy issues all around that get passed on down the line. Gets worse and more twisted and bizarre as material conditions deteriorate and suburban fascism intensifies.
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A while back someone on here posted a writeup of some study about the parenting styles of Nazi and pre-Nazi Germany and it was all bootstrap shit about leaving crying babies alone so they didn't "learn they could simply cry for attention."