active networking is the 10th circle of hell,never in my life have I felt so actively disgusted with myself in a social context. how do you do this without the urge to partiotism or how do you tamp down that urge because oh my god I cannot stomach it, it feels so fucking slimy to do. i can't even do it at events where the sole purpose is networking, my dad pressed me into one and I bailed 15 minutes in after hovering around, it feels so utterly degrading and gross

  • Babs [she/her]
    hexbear
    8
    4 months ago

    Intentionally "networking" sounds absolutely miserable, but slowly picking up contacts in your career as you work different companies is worth it. I've never actively sought out a network or gone to any events or conferences, but now I just kinda know dozens of people in my field, and whenever I get a new job I'll already know a few people there. Or I'll come to an interview and be surprised that one of the people across the table used to work with me a couple years ago and they'll see me as the safe bet to hire. Or someone will switch agencies and ask me if I want a recommendation to come work with them.

    It just feels like an inevitable result of working in the same career for long enough. It started with me getting a shitty entry level job through dumb luck without a network and sticking with it, though.