I step out of Hexbear and into another instance for once and immediately get this shit lmao

I was letting off some steam about how sick and tired I am about working a shit job to make some asshole rich, and I made an off hand remark about how my employer probably belongs in a gulag. Further down the reply chain, this lemmitor asshole shows up to send me a whole tirade full of faux concern, breaking out the psychoanalysis to say I'm just an extremist full of unjustified hatred because I must be a bitter loser. Somehow they come up with this nuclear hot take comparing my anger at the capitalist class to a Christian fundamentalist hating gay people.

But the fucking cherry on the top here is sending me this comment as their very first interaction with me and proceeding to instantly block me to deny me the chance to reply at all. I've seen others use the block feature as a means of getting the last word in, but never to get both the first and last word in at the same time. And in the end, this self-unaware lib ends up calling me the overly self righteous one. Perfect.

Tbh, what gets me is that they were so fucking close to getting it. They almost came to an accurate understanding of the fact that my material conditions as a poor person getting fucked over day in and day out by my employer stealing my labor will heavily inform my politics. But of course they never quite reach that point, instead bizarrely veering off into psychologizing me, and acting like this is all just some sort of character flaw on my part.

Rule one: https://hexbear.net/comment/4738025

  • AutomatedPossum [she/her]12•3 months ago

    It's really not "productive" at all how you're handling this when @Simon@lemmy.dbzer0.com was banned for homophobia just 5 days ago, when i've seen a transphobe from db0 get banned in the same timeframe (sorry i'm not giving you names and receipts on that one, it was something with 420 in the username, not gonna sift through all the shit in the modlog any longer) and you then accuse me of making up fake queerphobia claims for "sectarian reasons". In fact it's an incredibly shitty and hurtful thing to deny my experience with bigottry from your instance like that, but your dismissiveness fits well with what i've seen from you people.

    I'd kindly ask you to discuss with our mod team if cross-instance reporting works correctly, which is all i have left to say on the matter because i honestly see no option but to disengage from this conversation. I'm out of here.

      • AutomatedPossum [she/her]6•3 months ago

        Yeah, but that still leaves Unruffled@lemmy.dbzer0.com saying "using gay as an insult actually isn't homophobic" and seeing nothing wrong with one of their users posting such a take in a thread about queer liberation, a thread where the OP expressed his happyness about not being insulted as gay anymore when he doesn't bother to meet standards of toxic masculinity. That's the context the homophobic post in question was originally posted in, just to show you how out of place and tone deaf and shitty that take was. And Unruffled is like "hey, i see nothing wrong with any of that", directly quotes the homophobia apologia that accuses our comrade of taking it too seriously for "being insecure about his sexuality" and expressly agrees with all of it, all so he can continue to pester me with inane bullshit about me being sectarian just because i had the audacity to state my subjective and entirely honest impression that dbzer0 users never came off as leftists to me, which seems to have aggravated him so much that he, as a gay man, excuses homophobia to disprove my point.

        I'm not even beginning to get into the absolutely insufferable amount of debate pervertry and the total lack of principle and self respect necessary to act the way he did, it's damning enough that he's shown his entire ass by excusing classic homophobic talking points and toxic masculinity while using his own gay identity as a shield. That's just fucking vile. I know fully well why our comrade started that thread the quoted take was posted in, i've been called gay and the f-slur all my life even before i came out as a trans woman. You do not get hit with this shit by people who "have nothing against gay people", you get hit with that shit because you do not meet cishetnormative policing of assigned male gender roles, which of fucking course also expressly targets gayness in itself, just not exclusively so, because it serves a wider purpose in upholding patriarchal notions of masculinity, but of course that attitude has always been inseperable from homophobia, it was just that it was so widely accepted and normalized that people engaging in it could easily deny their homophobic sentiments and their own participation in the opression of queerness.

        And Unruffled openly states, i am quoting him verbatim now, "this is a perfectly reasonable take and not homophobic at all". What's he gonna do next when he comes back from his 14 day ban? Give out free F-slur passes?