I thought she just didn't want to do sex stuff or cuddle or show affection..
Anyway I just thought it was important to let the world know that you can be volcel army and still be in a committed ten year relationship. In fact isn't that what true comradeship is built on?
Weapons grade cope aside, I think I'm one of those weird types of humans who needs affection and so on. Am I really going to have to start dating again? FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK
People change over time. You can't assume people will stay static forever. The person that passes a "test" today may not pass the same test 10 years down the line. Relationships take work to cultivate, especially long-term ones.
Yes, 100%! Part of dating someone (to me) is being happy to see them grow and figure themselves out as time goes on. It does mean that certain things that you shared may not ways be the same, but a relationship is so much more than that. I also take the mindset of happy this is happening in my life now and trying hard to stop controlling the future so much when others are involved.
Making sure they won't change is part of the test.
I don't know what test you're thinking you're going to concoct that will make sure that people won't develop hormonal changes, be subject to abuse that can damage their enjoyment of sex, or just exercise free will and grow as humans over a decade, but whatever test you come up with is probably not one you should ever use on another person, comrade
you misunderstand, a requirement of the test is being an unchanging ideal and not an actual person
You just failed the test. Movin' on to my next suitor.