No hate but it's a little annoying trying to build platonic connections with trans women in my city through apps and all my experiences so far come down to them always rejecting my invites because of anxiety or feeling too tired but they never invite me because they normally don't go outside or trans women who want to only party and fuck
I'm down to party with them but I just want more platonic trans fem friends no sex 😭
Yeah so I have had some luck with forming platonic friendships with trans women through Taimi. I ummm have maybe made like 2 or 3 friends that way, although definitely one wants to fuck lol. That very much sucks about anxiety and self inflicted social isolation though preventing relationships (and flaking... idk. I say to most people, keep your plans and don't be flaky wtf).
I would say though, with the apps it takes quite a bit of pushing to try and meet up with people. I pretty quickly, like after about a day of texting, ask to like Meer up for coffee and then hold the date. I've had some luck this way although many of the people I've met up with I don't keep contact with (again because of flakiness and just general.. idk people don't show up or avoid and I can only put up with that for so long, cause it feels like they are avoiding me or don't like me)
Honestly my closest connections have been either through my trans support group or just like happenstance meeting someone at the queer/lesbian bar I go to
Honestly my closest connections have been either through my trans support group or just like happenstance meeting someone at the queer/lesbian bar I go to
What do y'all usually talk about the first meeting? I've been to a few and I can never find the groove with any of the conversations, I think largely cause I've lived my entire life until recently as a cishet PMC woman and don't fit the vibe of queer spaces/meetings at all :///
I'll be honest I'm a professional myself. Idk though, I mean when I first came to my group it was like... I was questioning and just talking through things. But I just talk about whatever difficulties I'm having with transition, questions, or whatever. I also have kind of difficulty in some queer spaces too though. I was straight presenting before I transitioned.
Socially? No idea? I mean I came out to my friends 1 year ago. But never tried actually unmasking my gender persona full time until a few months ago.
Strangers largely think I'm just a masc lesbian or something, never a man. Never get socially interacted with like I'm a man except for my trans friends
Mostly my own issues but yea, I don't feel queer or a man at all
Socially I'm still in a weird middle area :/ I definitely feel a lot of what you do from the other side. Don't really feel like a woman, would like to but I just don't. I think most people see me as a fem man or something idk. I get socially interacted with as a queer person basically.
I will say this, going from het presenting to trans is whiplash lol. Also testosterone is a very effective sex hormone, so do give it some time
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No hate but it's a little annoying trying to build platonic connections with trans women in my city through apps and all my experiences so far come down to them always rejecting my invites because of anxiety or feeling too tired but they never invite me because they normally don't go outside or trans women who want to only party and fuck
I'm down to party with them but I just want more platonic trans fem friends no sex 😭
Yeah so I have had some luck with forming platonic friendships with trans women through Taimi. I ummm have maybe made like 2 or 3 friends that way, although definitely one wants to fuck lol. That very much sucks about anxiety and self inflicted social isolation though preventing relationships (and flaking... idk. I say to most people, keep your plans and don't be flaky wtf).
I would say though, with the apps it takes quite a bit of pushing to try and meet up with people. I pretty quickly, like after about a day of texting, ask to like Meer up for coffee and then hold the date. I've had some luck this way although many of the people I've met up with I don't keep contact with (again because of flakiness and just general.. idk people don't show up or avoid and I can only put up with that for so long, cause it feels like they are avoiding me or don't like me)
Honestly my closest connections have been either through my trans support group or just like happenstance meeting someone at the queer/lesbian bar I go to
What do y'all usually talk about the first meeting? I've been to a few and I can never find the groove with any of the conversations, I think largely cause I've lived my entire life until recently as a cishet PMC woman and don't fit the vibe of queer spaces/meetings at all :///
I'll be honest I'm a professional myself. Idk though, I mean when I first came to my group it was like... I was questioning and just talking through things. But I just talk about whatever difficulties I'm having with transition, questions, or whatever. I also have kind of difficulty in some queer spaces too though. I was straight presenting before I transitioned.
How long have you been transitioning?
Hormones, little less than a year
Socially? No idea? I mean I came out to my friends 1 year ago. But never tried actually unmasking my gender persona full time until a few months ago.
Strangers largely think I'm just a masc lesbian or something, never a man. Never get socially interacted with like I'm a man except for my trans friends
Mostly my own issues but yea, I don't feel queer or a man at all
Socially I'm still in a weird middle area :/ I definitely feel a lot of what you do from the other side. Don't really feel like a woman, would like to but I just don't. I think most people see me as a fem man or something idk. I get socially interacted with as a queer person basically.
I will say this, going from het presenting to trans is whiplash lol. Also testosterone is a very effective sex hormone, so do give it some time
Thanks <3
I feel your pain that people think you're a gem man
At this point, I think I would rather get clocked as a trans man than as a queer woman... but even that is too far for me right now like wtf