That last part fills me with an unimaginable amount of rage. That mindset can actually go to hell.

As someone going through recovery now, so long as you have a proper supporting cast (so to speak), it's not super hard. I had a very mild complication (tiny dehiscence), but it resolved super fast. Of course it's a mileage may vary situation, but as a hypochondriac, I think I'm keeping things together fairly well with the cards I've been dealt. I do recommend keeping the family that has those opinions the fuck away from you if you ever decide to do so.