So I've had several comments removed recently and I was wondering how those of you with strong contrarian instinct avoid being toxic debate perverts.

I've noticed myself getting really confrontational online over shit that I know on an intellectual level does not matter in the slightest.

Are there strategies you'd recommend for acting more prosocially?

  • Gorb [they/them]
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    16 days ago

    Being contrarian is universally annoying so I'd suggest just never do it unless its an obvious joke thing. For mansplaining I did this a lot and I have a hard rule that I don't give advice or explain anything unless directly asked. Took a lot of getting used to but its pretty easy now.

    Sometimes i find typing out my comment then deleting it is enough to satisfy my brain. If i end up posting something stupid i go back and delete when I've cooled off and hope no one saw it lolol

    • Dickey_Butts [none/use name]
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      16 days ago

      Being contrarian is universally annoying

      I mean you could make the case that John Brown was a contrarian. I'm sure he annoyed people.

      Order fetishism can also be bad, I guess is the point I'm trying to make