I don't know. I'm so insecure in my identity already I just wish they weren't like this.

I'm sorry your therapist is hurting you this way You really don't need some fucker poking holes in any confidence you can build, you deserve better than that. It is not their fucking job or place to judge how much "effort" you put in, you should only do what you're comfortable with

Also "being influenced into being trans" is an unironic terf nazi dog whistle, fuck that shit