What're you into, what're you looking forward to, what're you happy about?

Please

I am feeling terribly self-harmy in advance of my birthday next week

I got to the point of making a pros and cons chart

give me something to be vicariously happy about or something to look forward to, please

  • ashinadash [she/her]
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    4 months ago

    Hi!! We just spent an hour rearranging our bedroom hifi and sweating it out together niko-happy More generally I like that we discovered together that we have autism, because I ended up lookin into it and self-dx'ing and then she did too, which was rad. I also really appreciate that she and I are of different generations, so we often have different, complimentary views and experiences

    Also she introduced me to hexbear. Wifey is much better at technology than I am tbh power-genius

    • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]
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      4 months ago

      My husband and I figured out we have autism together, too. ❤️ suddenly it all made sense why we felt so much safer with each other than most of the other people in our social circle and had such an instant rapport. Our first date was supposed to be a very normal 2-3 hours but instead lasted 36. 😂🥰

      I also really appreciate that she and I are of different generations, so we often have different, complimentary views and experiences

      I bet you two have the best conversations!! 😍🥰

      I have often admired the knowledge you demonstrate in your comments /c/technology etc, so she sounds impressive. Isn't competence hot??? 😂❤️ mine is a mechanical genius, and it is still a sexy marvel every time he magically fixes a thing someone brought to him as dead junk. I've been watching it happen for 20 years, and it's still amazing.

      I'm so glad she found Hexbear and brought you with her. You are a delight. ❤️ thank you very, very much.

      cuddle Care-Comrade

      • ashinadash [she/her]
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        4 months ago

        lets-fucking-go DISCOVERING UR AUTISM W/SOMEONE U LOOOOVE

        lmao 36 hour date, wildin... We do in fact have pretty good chats 24/7 though madeline-smug It's rad that she's good at computers, but while I should be in programming socks I got the Bad At Math autism, alas...

        Damn, the mechanical husband! I have an affection for mechanical stuff but am too weak and busted to do it. I think you have to be not chronically ill, and also jacked with oily calloused hands, right? Congrats on 20 years together though, another itsb banger ✨

        Same, yw and I hope you're doin a little better cat-trans I know you said to me before that if your inbox blew up you'd just quit, hope you're managing that too, lol

        • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]
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          4 months ago

          you said to me before that if your inbox blew up you'd just quit, hope you're managing that too, lol

          😂🎯

          if it hadn't been responses to a post about self-harm filling my inbox, I would have just avoided the site for a while, but I didn't want anyone to think the worst, so I guess I'm doing Inbox Exposure Therapy 😂

          I think maybe it is actually helping me not be scared that replies = flaming (reddit was often kinda mean to me), but it was definitely a thing I had to just grit my teeth and get through 😂🤦 so silly, I know – "I need support! ..... AAAAAAAHHHHHHHH YOUR SUPPORT IS TERRIFYING!!" 😂😂😂😂

          It is so sweet of you to remember that little fact about me. ❤️ I appreciate you very much. meow-hug

          • ashinadash [she/her]
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            4 months ago

            Explosive Inbox Support Exposure Therapy, lfg!!! It stuck out to me because it was real and relatable cat-trans but also the bearsite is such a cool and chill place that I'm at the least acquainted with many of its users =)

            Sending my hopes that the upcoming birthday doesn't cause you more distress cuddle

      • magi [null/void]
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        4 months ago

        Ever since meeting each other we have speken almost 24/7 like constamtly talking to one another without a break lol but we had been looking for a more welcoming place since there had been too many libs or spaces with too much hostility for either of ua and I'm glad I found hexbear ^^ She is the nicest person I've ever known, and my best friend. We are very similar but not the sane.

        I'm very glad to see you doing better

        • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]
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          4 months ago

          She is the nicest person I've ever known, and my best friend. We are very similar but not the same

          aaaaaaahhhhhhhh ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ this makes me so happy to read

          I am one of those mushy goobers who gets very excited for other people, and my favorite thing to be excited about is people having that magical connection, I love this so much meow-hug meow-bounce thank you!