So, I'm currently dating someone, and it's my first time dating. I was a kissless virgin before this but I’m not kissless anymore ^^. Anyway, we get along really well, sharing a lot of interests and similar views. They're a "newer" lefty, but they have a good head on their shoulders and are open to learning. We’re really excited about each other. We've talked a lot over voice chat, had three dates so far, and exchange a bit of daily texting. At this point, I'm pretty sure we're going to become a couple, maybe even for a longer time.
Today is our 4th date, but I do not intend to tell them I love them because I'm not really sure how love feels. I definitely feel attraction, and it seems very mutual. I guess my question is: When do I tell someone I love them, and how do I know when I truly love them?
Im asking because this is literally my 1st time dating and I have never been involved in anything romantic.
My spouse and I waited 5 months to tell each other, and I let them do it first, even though I really wanted to say it like right away, like you. Loving someone is the combination of the way they make you feel and knowing who they truly are deeper than the surface. Let the honeymoon period end and then say it. 4-5 months is I think totally reasonable.
I'll put it like this - you adore someone you can stay up all night talking to, but you love someone who you could shit your pants around because you have food poisoning, because you know they'd just laugh and bring you clean clothes and then tease you about it for years. Can you see the difference? Good luck