So, I'm currently dating someone, and it's my first time dating. I was a kissless virgin before this but I’m not kissless anymore ^^. Anyway, we get along really well, sharing a lot of interests and similar views. They're a "newer" lefty, but they have a good head on their shoulders and are open to learning. We’re really excited about each other. We've talked a lot over voice chat, had three dates so far, and exchange a bit of daily texting. At this point, I'm pretty sure we're going to become a couple, maybe even for a longer time.
Today is our 4th date, but I do not intend to tell them I love them because I'm not really sure how love feels. I definitely feel attraction, and it seems very mutual. I guess my question is: When do I tell someone I love them, and how do I know when I truly love them?
Im asking because this is literally my 1st time dating and I have never been involved in anything romantic.
four dates is generally too early, not because love is a singular monolithic thing that follows universal rules, but it does imply a deeper knowledge of someone beyond the Everything Is Exciting Just Starting To Get To Know Each Other Phase. however within that phase you absolutely can sense the potential for a deeper love imo, so this is all very positive and exciting. happy for you comrade, just go with the flow and keep enjoying this connection as it grows.
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in a similar thing myself right now if a little bit further along (a few months), she is beyond lovely and the fact i met her off one of those satanic dating apps feels like a small miracle.