John: I'm in your area tonight, get ready and we'll chill

me: bet, you live pretty close, be ready in 15

50-90 mins later

John: leaving now

It's the John syndrome in my circle.

  • gueybana [any]
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    2 months ago

    I’m the John. I do have adhd but if I’m being analytical it’s: I’m really excited to hang out, I really want to hang, and Inwant to reserve your time, but life keeps getting in the way such as… not having car available or me giving the most optimistic time it would take to take bus/finish work/etc.

    It’s not nice, but it doesn’t come from a place of malice or lack of respect. I would only do this with close friends

    • EelBolshevikism [none/use name]
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      2 months ago

      Oh yeah I never doubted that a ton of people who are late often have ADHD or other obligations. In fact I'd say most people who end up doing that or are in that situation aren't being malicious or even ignorant, just circumstanceb