I’m the John. I do have adhd but if I’m being analytical it’s: I’m really excited to hang out, I really want to hang, and Inwant to reserve your time, but life keeps getting in the way such as… not having car available or me giving the most optimistic time it would take to take bus/finish work/etc.

It’s not nice, but it doesn’t come from a place of malice or lack of respect. I would only do this with close friends