So, back when I was "still cis tho", there were a lot of aspects of male gender norms that bothered me deeply and of course I totally understand why now. Even though these days I obviously have a clear reason for feeling that way, I'm still curious if cishet men also have issues with how norms or expectations around gender and sexuality impact them in a negative way.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on how those norms impact you, whether good or bad.

Also, I should mention that since this is a bit of a sensitive subject we're talking about here, please be thoughtful and sensitive when discussing with others in this thread. Thanks! <3

EDIT: Much thanks for all the great responses here! I know it's a difficult topic of course, so I appreciate you sharing your thoughts/feelings like this.

Speaking of which... I just looked at /c/menby and some of the posts on the front page there are over 2 years old. I see a lot of the discussion here centered around not being able to share feelings and/or not having the spaces or support to do that in. /c/menby seems like the perfect place for that, just sayin'.

  • DickFuckarelli [he/him]
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    8 days ago

    I'll keep it light. I'm for all intents and purposes, a dude's dude. I work out, BBQ, drink beer, and in general, am loud and obnoxious. But...

    I hate sports and in particular American Football. And to a plurality if not majority of supposed free society I might as well turn in my bro card.

    • Carcharodonna [she/her]
      hexagon
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      7 days ago

      I hate sports and in particular American Football.

      Same! And good for you for hating American football in particular. It's a terrible sport run mostly by racist chuds that causes long term injuries (including brain damage) for the people who play it, which also includes kids in many cases. I do admit that I like watching Kaiju Big Battel sometimes (which is really more entertainment than actual wrestling) and robot wars type stuff, but that's mostly it these days for watching sports.

        • Bureaucrat [pup/pup's, null/void]
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          6 days ago

          Police chases

          You ever been to a riot bar night? I've been to a few punk venues that have done it. Throw up a projector screen and show compilations of cops getting owned. Drink beer, cheer for runners, protestors, rioters, robbers and so on.

        • Carcharodonna [she/her]
          hexagon
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          7 days ago

          It really is, isn't it? Do you ever watch NHRL stuff? If not, you should. It's pretty fun/exciting and there's a decent amount trans/queer presence in the league which is cool, like here for example: https://youtu.be/pJMko14GWio&t=840

    • krolden@lemmy.ml
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      7 days ago

      When youre in a public place and people come up to you and just start talking about some football game that happened because you're a male and they have no other idea how make small talk that doesn't involve sports.

      • ProfessorOwl_PhD [any]
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        7 days ago

        they have no other idea how make small talk that doesn't involve sports.

        Hey, they might know how to make small talk about cars, which I also don't give a fuck about.

    • grandepequeno [he/him]
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      edit-2
      7 days ago

      Same but in Portugal and with football, here everyone is from one of the 3 big teams (green, blue red) and you're expected to pick 1 of them and tease/get teased the day after 2 teams play each other. And you ought to have at least 1 item branded with your team