Like, the amount of times you hear this is mind boggling. And it’s always liberals/“leftists” who say they’re not racist.
“But I just don’t find them attractive.”
You have NOT seen/interacted with literally every single member of that community. How in the fuck can you just broadly say you aren’t attracted to them?
It’s just a preference.
Like, you’re literally saying you don’t find people of a specific race, or from a specific place, or who follow a specific religion attractive. What the fuck kind of “preference” is this? I don’t understand. That’s terfs saying they don’t find “trans” people attractive. No that’s terfs being literal terfs. Stop it.
I’m a POC too! I can’t be racist against my own race!
Yeah, you are being racist against your own race here. I don’t see why you can’t. Candace Owens regularly spreads anti-Black propaganda for her personal benefit. There are countless such examples.
This shit drives me up the wall. And I haven’t even mentioned the amount of times these devolve into arguments about how ___ race/religion is actually bad and people who are a part of it/follow it are bad. So. Many. Times. And said with a straight face too! By people who say they’re not racist or xenophobic. For some reason people think being a POC means you’re immune from being racist/xenophobic. Which just isn’t true.
I’m not saying your bad for feeling this way. A huge part is the culture we’re born in and grow up in. But a sign of maturity is recognising this ingrained racism and getting rid of it.
Sorry, just sometimes liberals get on my fucking nerves.
i dont think white features are the only good looking features, as I believe black people in all forms are beautiful and blackness is beautiful. (i also dont actually think I really have explicitly white features but thats for another day, I know I said i did, but i was getting more at how people have read me in order to demonstrate the privileges I am aware that I have based on my looks and to provide a framework for my expereinces being considered an attractive poc ).
In terms of how I conceptualize my attractiveness, i believe i'm attractive (just based on looks, not my sparkling personality or funny jokes) because other people treat me as such, and other people have told me i'm attractive based on my eurocentric features. Accordingly its hard for me to parse whether i think im actually attractive based on my "white features" because i think im still trying to understand my own attractiveness apart from what people have projected onto me. I can tell you specific parts of myself that I find attractive, but tbh ive only been interested in looking at my attractiveness based on how society determines me to be attractive vs how I determine myself to be attractive because its society's understanding of my looks that have caused the heart ache and have even messed with the way I see myself, so how can I even begin to identity the specific ways im attractive to myself???)
saying im good looking based on my white features can imply that I have self hate, but depending on the context it can also imply that I am aware of how i've been regarded in the context of featurism and that that allows me to be deemed "good looking" , but even then, it can also be implied that even if im aware of how im regarded in the context of featurism, ive drank the kool aid because im still determining myself to be good looking, even if what is considered good looking is being interrogated. its a lot to straddle at once.
Sorry if this seems really confusing and contradictory to what ive said before
edit: it would be funny if the incels came out with a questionaire similar to the invisible knapsack where people have to check mark experiences theyve had that lead them to realize that they are a "person of attractive experience" as a way to provide a gap between identifying as attractive because of how people treat you and between how one gagues their own attractiveness based on their own pov)