I don't mean to unnecessarily gender this discussion. Gender here doesn't matter. But I'm going to use gendered words as they fit the context. I want everyone's opinion.

My dad died from bronchial cancer two days before my 12th birthday. I had to learn how to be a 'man' from my ill mother.

What I want to know is, if you had to import some wisdom to preteen me, about the fundamentals of life, what would it be?

I've barely learned to shave (and prefer a beard anyway). What can you teach me Hexbear?

I'm 32 by the way. I'm just curious.

  • isame [he/him]
    hexagon
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    8 months ago

    This is another fantastic one. I started telling people I love bring proven wrong. It's an opportunity to learn. It was harder for me to learn to say I don't know in a context where my knowledge was, from my perspective, presumed. My professional experience has taught me to just fucking saying I do not know. It's so much safer than trying to fake it and then hey you brought down a server in production. No, this was not my mistake, but I saw it happen.

    • NephewAlphaBravo [he/him]
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      8 months ago

      Sort of related, if possible I like to continue from "huh, I don't know" to "let's find out" with google or the library or whatever's on hand. Realizing you don't know something means a chance to learn something.