also, imo "women can't game" is based on a deeper sexist view that you find expressed in other ways like "women can't drive" or "women are bad at chess" or "women make bad engineers" or "women make bad leaders" or "women operate on emotion." imo the deeper sexist view uniting all of those is that women are not goal oriented. all these "male hobbies" are meant to be exercises in goal-oriented thinking, which is what many men view as the mental trait distinguishing them from women and the mental trait that allows them to be dominant and to lead others. this in turn makes it the mental trait most relevant to male self worth under patriarchy.

imo the way to combat it in media is to show complex, deep-thinking women 1) wanting something unrelated to men and children, and then 2) self-assuredly figuring out how to get what they want