Hence the quote brackets. Natural is of course itself an artificial category. Nothing unnatural exists.

What I'm saying is that we've been socialised, and some of that has fucked us up. But it's also part of who we are, and if it isn't causing us distress or hurting others materially, a few problematic kinks or social attitudes floating around your head are not that bad.

For instance, do I like pretty dresses because they're beautiful and I like them and their aesthetic inherently? Or because I grew up exposed to an endless barrage of Disney Princesses and other exhortations to femininity? Fucked if I know, but the latter probably had its effect.