So fyi, the whole thing with the pilgrims and the native Americans was a myth tacked onto to the holiday at a later date. A "Day of Thanks" feast in autumn was a pretty common tradition in parts of England, and when English settlers came to New England they kept up the tradition. The feast between the pilgrims and the Wampanoag tribe did happen, but it wasn't really anything of note in the history of that community. The tribe had made an alliance with the Puritan community and they simply invited them to a feast they were having to celebrate their alliance. It was noted in their colony's history but wasn't considered a big deal until historians stumbled on the story later.

So you could just as easily call it a "harvest feast" or whatever and ignore all the stupid colonial shit tacked on. Personally I don't mind an excuse to chow down with my fam, but I get why other people find it stupid.