related minor tangent, this is why i fucking loathe the "power dynamics" jokes you see around here sometimes. the idea that someone can be in their 30s and have a healthy, normal romantic/sexual relationship with a teenager is beyond vile and i've seen people here make that claim and similar ones in the past with little pushback. cries of "but that's morality policing!" absolutely ring hollow because providing cover for this kind of shit is the alternative.
there is never an excuse for getting involved with someone that much younger than you, especially a teen. i was groomed by several different adults who 100% knew better and should have been shot for their interactions with me, no matter how much i may have wanted it at the time. a teenager isn't manipulating an adult into shit. "b-but i'm a gormless dipshit and they're a genius-level master of social interaction!!" you shouldn't have been in this position to begin with.it is still 100% your fault
the OP of that thread shouldn't have been shown sympathy, they should have been shown the fucking wall.
I thought the OP of the original thread was full of shit and purposely omitting details that so obviously points to an underage person, but it was posted in /c/mentalhealth, so I didn't know how to respond that isn't just saying "OP, you're full of shit lmao"
i'd bet my eyes on it. i'm still torn on whether or not OOP was sharing a real story or writing a fantasy with one hand down their pants or even just baiting the site with an incredibly volatile subject, but i am immensely disappointed in the responses in that thread. i understand the comm rules forbid calling bullshit. because of that i think the best response would have been none at all. no validation, no reassurances, no nothing. i don't give a shit how suicidal some pedo may have been about their crimes, they should have been shunned at the minimum.
It sounds an awful lot like bait, especially the gender identity reveal at the end. But of course you can't really call that out on the mental health comm.
Yeah that is why I was suspicious the whole thing may have been concocted (yes even their posts on their main account about the relationship). Feels like a really high effort attempt to bring heat on the site.
And as others have said I am deeply disappointed with the responses from some posters here.
while i do agree that a sterner response to the sympathizers in that thread would be ideal, my main concern here is that they felt inclined to sympathize in the first place, rather than how it looks to outsiders. i'm not going to name names or call anyone specifically out, but i seriously want those of you who chose to give a child rapist pats on the back to have a long, serious think about why you thought that was an acceptable response. then, fucking change.
related minor tangent, this is why i fucking loathe the "power dynamics" jokes you see around here sometimes. the idea that someone can be in their 30s and have a healthy, normal romantic/sexual relationship with a teenager is beyond vile and i've seen people here make that claim and similar ones in the past with little pushback. cries of "but that's morality policing!" absolutely ring hollow because providing cover for this kind of shit is the alternative.
there is never an excuse for getting involved with someone that much younger than you, especially a teen. i was groomed by several different adults who 100% knew better and should have been shot for their interactions with me, no matter how much i may have wanted it at the time. a teenager isn't manipulating an adult into shit. "b-but i'm a gormless dipshit and they're a genius-level master of social interaction!!" you shouldn't have been in this position to begin with. it is still 100% your fault
the OP of that thread shouldn't have been shown sympathy, they should have been shown the fucking wall.
I thought the OP of the original thread was full of shit and purposely omitting details that so obviously points to an underage person, but it was posted in /c/mentalhealth, so I didn't know how to respond that isn't just saying "OP, you're full of shit lmao"
i'd bet my eyes on it. i'm still torn on whether or not OOP was sharing a real story or writing a fantasy with one hand down their pants or even just baiting the site with an incredibly volatile subject, but i am immensely disappointed in the responses in that thread. i understand the comm rules forbid calling bullshit. because of that i think the best response would have been none at all. no validation, no reassurances, no nothing. i don't give a shit how suicidal some pedo may have been about their crimes, they should have been shunned at the minimum.
It sounds an awful lot like bait, especially the gender identity reveal at the end. But of course you can't really call that out on the mental health comm.
Yeah that is why I was suspicious the whole thing may have been concocted (yes even their posts on their main account about the relationship). Feels like a really high effort attempt to bring heat on the site.
And as others have said I am deeply disappointed with the responses from some posters here.
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while i do agree that a sterner response to the sympathizers in that thread would be ideal, my main concern here is that they felt inclined to sympathize in the first place, rather than how it looks to outsiders. i'm not going to name names or call anyone specifically out, but i seriously want those of you who chose to give a child rapist pats on the back to have a long, serious think about why you thought that was an acceptable response. then, fucking change.
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