I met some long time friends for pizza and beer tonight and i thought it was a fun night but right before we parted ways the two of them held an intervention with me. They said i was bringing up "socialist stuff" too much and it was making them depressed. They said to keep the conversation exclusively to things like games and anime. That if i didnt stop they didnt want to be friends anymore. Have you guys/gals/nonbinary pals experienced something like this before?
So the number one most anti vegan person in my life is my brother. When my mum told me that he tried to go vegan cold turkey in his teens but couldn't, everything came together. He couldn't deal with him not being able to go vegan. Honestly I couldn't care less, and I'd love to support him. But sibling rivalry is a thing.
People enjoy their food a lot, and it pains them to give it up. This isn't your fault.
Anyhow, your actual fucking family not inviting you over is nuts. Honestly I'd connect and tell them your feelings. It's seriously terrible what they're doing.
Anyhow, thanks for doing what you're doing for the animals :avoheart:
Aww thanks for being so nice. Yeah, i tried to talk to them and they denied it and then acted like i was a being a problem for bringing up not being invited. One of them actually said i was treating him like a "punching bag" for bringing it up. lol so yeah i basically cut off most contact after that because holy fuck, and my mental health improved dramatically.
That sounds super problematic. The gaslighting is huge here. People with low emotionally maturity get super defensive when you try to talk about stuff. Honestly, the fucked up thing is that he probably convinced himself that he is the victim here.
I don't know what your family dynamic is, but it's obviously unhealthy. Maybe you'll start to figure shit out as you progress through life. Honestly I don't talk to my family at all, I don't recommend it but it works well for my mental health.
setting boundaries has worked at least somewhat thankfully. Thanks for your kind words <3