I'm largely in the latter and look back at a lot of interactions and think maybe I need to shut the fuck up sometimes.

Last major interaction I had regarding leftist politics was with a former co-worker that was a country bumpkin Trump type. We started having a conversation about trans folk and he was adamant that men are dressing as woman to sneak into public restrooms to ogle girls. After a long back and forth I realized at one point that I was screaming at him about how I guarantee he's walked past a trans person irl and didn't even realize it and that they just want to just be left alone.