I personally haven't done much thinking about what it should mean to be a man in any context outside myself, as my instinct is to think it doesn't matter outside what I want for myself. But I can share what I use as the standard of being a man to myself, and you can share your thoughts.

The poem "If" by Rudyard Kipling sums up most of it. Plus, the idea that specialization is for insects, and you should be able to do nearly everything at some basic level. Also, remember that nothing is impossible, but some things aren't worth doing. The ability to make things and fix things is important to my idea of a man.

In my mind, Cody from Cody's Lab is a very masculine man. A pretty good role model. (At least the way he presents himself is as one.) If he made lots of cooking and sewing videos that wouldn't change that, his approach to things and the variety of stuff he does matters more than the specific thing is he doing to make me see him in that way.

I don't know how to apply these ideas to other people, or if it's useful to do so. But it's what I apply to myself.