I think maybe I do. I also don't know how I fit on the spectrum. Surely closer to the sonic OC end. However, I have had reasonable romantic success with never flirting.
My go to pick up line is, " you look bored, wanna try to have fun?" if it works "did you have fun, wanna try more later?" if they didn't want to or they didn't feel it then mission's off. This is a self selecting bias as anyone who looks bored at the bar is probably someone I would be interested in talking to anyway. Now that online dating is even more of a thing, I pretty much only bother people in the context of them trying to find people to get kinky with so it cuts out a lot of the ambiguity.
There are diffrent ways to do it. I know some male type people who are way more... active? In finding dates. They are working on their style more. They are approaching people more. They are rising and grinding about it. They are as a consequence making more mistakes. They are also getting more dates. Thay doesn't suit my temperment. Nor yours, from what I gather. Some skills about fashion and the art of conversation help to pratice, but if you are content in a lower energy syle then it really isn't necessary. You are in control of what you do you know? There is ultimately always going to be some elements of friction in figuring out the best way for you to interface with the world but dependong on your temperment there are solutions to problems that be found. You seem like you got the analytical type metacognition to figure out what works for you comrade. I am confident in you.
Yeah, I thought for a moment that I HAD to do the rise and grind mindset with this, causing me trepidation. Glad to know I can be lower energy about this
I think maybe I do. I also don't know how I fit on the spectrum. Surely closer to the sonic OC end. However, I have had reasonable romantic success with never flirting.
My go to pick up line is, " you look bored, wanna try to have fun?" if it works "did you have fun, wanna try more later?" if they didn't want to or they didn't feel it then mission's off. This is a self selecting bias as anyone who looks bored at the bar is probably someone I would be interested in talking to anyway. Now that online dating is even more of a thing, I pretty much only bother people in the context of them trying to find people to get kinky with so it cuts out a lot of the ambiguity.
Everyone's advice makes dating seem way easier and less stressful than I make it out to be in my head
There are diffrent ways to do it. I know some male type people who are way more... active? In finding dates. They are working on their style more. They are approaching people more. They are rising and grinding about it. They are as a consequence making more mistakes. They are also getting more dates. Thay doesn't suit my temperment. Nor yours, from what I gather. Some skills about fashion and the art of conversation help to pratice, but if you are content in a lower energy syle then it really isn't necessary. You are in control of what you do you know? There is ultimately always going to be some elements of friction in figuring out the best way for you to interface with the world but dependong on your temperment there are solutions to problems that be found. You seem like you got the analytical type metacognition to figure out what works for you comrade. I am confident in you.
Yeah, I thought for a moment that I HAD to do the rise and grind mindset with this, causing me trepidation. Glad to know I can be lower energy about this