Turns out it takes effort not be a piece of shit under patriarchy. I think the most charitable reading of this comic is that guys will fail to assert themselves and then blame their partners when they end up depressed or unfulfilled. My dad knew he didn’t want any more kids after kid #2. 6 kids later, he finally left because he couldn’t take it. Dude should have spoken his mind decades earlier and if it was a deal breaker for my mom they should have separated. When someone people pleases to the point of making sacrifices that no one asked them to make, it’s hard to be sympathetic when they later act like martyrs.

I had to tell my old partner they were going to have to live with me getting some ill-fitting pants and eating some bad meals for a while because I was tired of just never being expected to do “womanly” things because I was male-passing. When I was really depressed I would lay in bed and go days without interacting with my kids and everyone was like “we figured you didn’t want to change diapers” as of that was just normal. Fuck that. If I have for forcibly remind people to hold me to proper standards I will because people are way too used to excusing men being pieces of shit