Finding a good therapist both sucks and is expensive, because every appointment with a bad one is a complete drain of money that can fuck you up more than you were when entering, but ideally does nothing for you.
So now you have a sunk cost situation when you realize your therapist is bad for you. Thing that helped me most to stop self hatred was a book with exercises in it that I read because I could crack it open as a crutch any time instead of going to a therapist once a week, realizing my self hatred was dumb, then doing it again for a week.
I tried 7 pillars of self esteem by Nathaniel branden but it wasn't very helpful. I later found out the guy who wrote it was an objectivist who most likely had an affair with ayn rand so that's a thing. It didn't even seem like it was that rand-y, it's not like Jordan Peterson's book which Philosophytube accurately called 'self help for tories'
And you should be fine as long as you aren't afraid to switch therapists if you think one isn't working out for you. I didn't know at the time that I should switch if it's not working so I have stayed with a therapist too long before.
I was semi-functional (worked out, cooked, kept things tidy, did all the work I needed to do mostly) and because of that they didn't really know what to do to help because they thought mental health should follow from that but it doesn't always.
I was semi-functional (worked out, cooked, kept things tidy, did all the work I needed to do mostly) and because of that they didn’t really know what to do to help because they thought mental health should follow from that but it doesn’t always.
yeah, I'm really suspicious of all these mental health professionals who seemingly don't understand that trauma exists and effects people in ways that can't be remedied by concentrating on happy thoughts or w/e
Finding a good therapist both sucks and is expensive, because every appointment with a bad one is a complete drain of money that can fuck you up more than you were when entering, but ideally does nothing for you.
So now you have a sunk cost situation when you realize your therapist is bad for you. Thing that helped me most to stop self hatred was a book with exercises in it that I read because I could crack it open as a crutch any time instead of going to a therapist once a week, realizing my self hatred was dumb, then doing it again for a week.
yeah, that's why I'm afraid to try it. but I need to get diagnosed so I can get on disability so I guess I have to eventually.
what was the book called?
Not op but for me this book was Feeling Good by David Burns, can't recommend it enough
That's actually the one that worked for me.
I tried 7 pillars of self esteem by Nathaniel branden but it wasn't very helpful. I later found out the guy who wrote it was an objectivist who most likely had an affair with ayn rand so that's a thing. It didn't even seem like it was that rand-y, it's not like Jordan Peterson's book which Philosophytube accurately called 'self help for tories'
The book is feeling good by David burns,
And you should be fine as long as you aren't afraid to switch therapists if you think one isn't working out for you. I didn't know at the time that I should switch if it's not working so I have stayed with a therapist too long before.
I was semi-functional (worked out, cooked, kept things tidy, did all the work I needed to do mostly) and because of that they didn't really know what to do to help because they thought mental health should follow from that but it doesn't always.
yeah, I'm really suspicious of all these mental health professionals who seemingly don't understand that trauma exists and effects people in ways that can't be remedied by concentrating on happy thoughts or w/e