Right and a scenario where all parties have consented to closeness, touchy feely interactions and things that would otherwise be considered invasions of personal space or outright harassment is attractive.

That's what taking on a fake identity is and joining the community (any of them). It is consent for the kind of interactions that you have already seen that community having and performing with one another.

Nobody minds these interactions because everybody knows that they consented to them when they saw that it was the kind of stuff the community already does and still joined it anyway.

A community of people wearing a uniform or identity you assume in order to take part in them have a set of social rules you can observe before you decide to take part. Each one has slightly different social rules, and each one is attractive for slightly different reasons, consent to the social rules you can observe before joining is a major factor in what makes it attractive.

I think the hottest take I could make on this topic that would upset the furries is that they can be compared to hippies and the free love movement, they behave similarly except they wear fursuits.