See, the thing is, it IS morally questionable to keep information someone would care about secret during and before sex, but in both the examples of breast enlargement surgery and trans people, if the person who claims to care could not already tell, then any possible reason they could have to care indicates they are a reactionary. Sure, it would be morally questionable to hide the fact that you’re a different job (this is a bad example, I can’t think of a better one) or something so you can get into someone’s pants, because it implies a whole host of other lies and dishonesties going on, but there is no such issue with being trans or having breast implants. Any non-insane issue you could have with either would be entirely sourced in bigotry or just pure magical thinking.
Not even just people you care about, I've known people basically catfished before a tinder hookup, and then feeling pressured to still have sex after coming over because they didn't wanna feel shallow or rude for walking out. Most people tend to use more favorable pics of themselves but a lot of guys out there have pics on their tinder profile from like 5 years ago when they look like a whole other person now
See, the thing is, it IS morally questionable to keep information someone would care about secret during and before sex, but in both the examples of breast enlargement surgery and trans people, if the person who claims to care could not already tell, then any possible reason they could have to care indicates they are a reactionary. Sure, it would be morally questionable to hide the fact that you’re a different job (this is a bad example, I can’t think of a better one) or something so you can get into someone’s pants, because it implies a whole host of other lies and dishonesties going on, but there is no such issue with being trans or having breast implants. Any non-insane issue you could have with either would be entirely sourced in bigotry or just pure magical thinking.
Not even just people you care about, I've known people basically catfished before a tinder hookup, and then feeling pressured to still have sex after coming over because they didn't wanna feel shallow or rude for walking out. Most people tend to use more favorable pics of themselves but a lot of guys out there have pics on their tinder profile from like 5 years ago when they look like a whole other person now