The more specific the better.

Here's mine:

  • Prana brand pants.
  • /r/bodyweightfitness.
  • "Bullshit Jobs"
  • "Communist Manifesto"
  • Fasting.
  • My current haircut (long on the top; short on the sides).
  • /r/malefashionadvice
  • Electorism and "the news" is dumb
  • Break up with that girl

editing. is there a better way to make a list? thanks for the help, comrades

  • GreenTeaRedFlag [any]
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    3 years ago

    If I were just told the correct answer to every mistake I had made, I would not have grown stronger from the experience. That is too say, the mistakes I have made from a lifestyle perspective were small ones that I am proud to have overcome and would not want to have skipped to the end. Without the forceful push off of reddit, I would not have learned how bad every social media is without a doubt. But, I also learned some useful things while there. The only real advice I could give is not to visit a certain person on a particular day almost exactly a year ago in the method I did. That was just probability working against me, not my fault.

    • Phillipkdink [he/him]
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      3 years ago

      If I were just told the correct answer to every mistake I had made, I would not have grown stronger from the experience.

      While this can be true in some cases, it is worth mentioning that "learning the hard way" is not always the best option. People can spend decades with behaviours that don't make them happy or actually traumatize them simply because they weren't exposed to healthier ideas and truths at an earlier age.

      Maybe there is a "deeper" kind of learning from finding your way to a healthy life yourself (if you are ever able to at all), but the question we should be asking is "at what cost?" How many years of destructive or wrong-headed habits are worth that deeper lesson?

      • GreenTeaRedFlag [any]
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        3 years ago

        I mean yeah, this is very personal to me because my environment and inherent convictions have steered me away from a lot of really bad outcomes, so the little trials I overcome have bigger lessons. I was generally taught things like don't fall into substance abuse, don't get a girl pregnant unless you intend to marry her, and even then don't until you're both graduated and employed, eat healthy and enjoy the outdoors, and so on. I learned to be communist by many experiences that showed capitalism was wrong, if I just skipped to the end my convictions would be weaker. I learned to be outgoing by gathering up my courage and doing it, so hearing to just do it would not really achieve anything. After all, if I wasn't ready to accept failure and knew some people would be receptive, I wouldn't have the courage to accept later rejections or successes as the inevitable outcome of putting myself out there. If I tried to skip to the end of the worst period of my life back in the day, I wouldn't really get anywhere because it was other people's actions along with time numbing the pain and my own growth that led out, I couldn't just give myself the last couple days early, it doesn't make sense. But I learned a lot about my own strength by enduring it.