In the US you're looking for Amtgard, Hearthfire, SCA, Nero, and there's a post apocalypse one I can't remember. Amtgard and Hearthfire are relatively easy to get in to, you need about 100$ for a sword and a tunic and they focus heavily on fighting. The SCA requires big kid money if you want to fight, but they have lots of non-fighting options too. Nero I'm less sure of. Avoid Dagorhir, it's a fucking trash fire.
Hygiene - yes.
Moderately attractive? Questionable but I'm feeling good about my odds.
Where do I sign up?
In the US you're looking for Amtgard, Hearthfire, SCA, Nero, and there's a post apocalypse one I can't remember. Amtgard and Hearthfire are relatively easy to get in to, you need about 100$ for a sword and a tunic and they focus heavily on fighting. The SCA requires big kid money if you want to fight, but they have lots of non-fighting options too. Nero I'm less sure of. Avoid Dagorhir, it's a fucking trash fire.