white (passing) liberals who think euphemistic racism isn't racism are fucking exhausting. we were driving my wife's friend home and were talking about a neighborhood in my city and how rents were going up. so I said, well, yeah, it's gentrifying. her friend started saying not really and my wife agreed, saying something about "urban youth" - apparently she meant the perceptions of bougie white people and was using the phrase tongue in cheek but it didn't land that way to me and her friend took it as an invitation to increase the level of racism. after a bit, I pretended to have spaced out for a bit and asked them to clarify who they were talking about - you know, inviting them to drop the euphemisms and walk it back a bit - but her friend just immediately jumped in with "problem people" so I just checked out for the rest of the drive, until I could properly chide my wife for the racist bullshit.

when I did, she gave the above clarification but dove straight into the lib racism of paternalistic stereotypes (it's not their fault, they're just traumatized so they do drugs and abuse their kids - bitch, all parents abuse their kids! you're trans, you know that!) so I called her out about that too. told her to eat the racist brainworms.

anyway, that's it. just venting. she wants me to be friends with her friend but I just don't think we're going to connect - I'm going to start a fight over bullshit like this sooner rather than later. I can't keep my mouth shut unless I'm already exhausted.