Hard to say just because the words aren’t always super precise. I’m definitely not trying to say you should do anything. I guess what I’m trying to say is that there are different attractions. Romantic, sexual, aesthetic, platonic, etc. So you can judge your own attractiveness with one and not another or a combination of them
I feel you. The common wisdom seems to be that it’s rarely as impossible as it seems to adjust your presentation, but it’s hard to deny that it feels insurmountable sometimes, especially if it’s not something you’ve given a lot of thought prior. I personally have ignored my own appearance as much as possible for a long time.
Yeah we super do not give people the proper language to differentiate between them. Honestly it would have been very helpful to me fighting off my shame around attraction if I’d been able to tell the difference between horny while a girl is present, being sexually attracted to a girl, and being romantically attracted to a girl. Would have made me feel less creepy and probably just general more sociable
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Hard to say just because the words aren’t always super precise. I’m definitely not trying to say you should do anything. I guess what I’m trying to say is that there are different attractions. Romantic, sexual, aesthetic, platonic, etc. So you can judge your own attractiveness with one and not another or a combination of them
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I feel you. The common wisdom seems to be that it’s rarely as impossible as it seems to adjust your presentation, but it’s hard to deny that it feels insurmountable sometimes, especially if it’s not something you’ve given a lot of thought prior. I personally have ignored my own appearance as much as possible for a long time.
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Yeah we super do not give people the proper language to differentiate between them. Honestly it would have been very helpful to me fighting off my shame around attraction if I’d been able to tell the difference between horny while a girl is present, being sexually attracted to a girl, and being romantically attracted to a girl. Would have made me feel less creepy and probably just general more sociable