USA Today deleted this thread, in which the publication defended pedophilia. pic.twitter.com/ssfLjoDklt— Ian Miles Cheong (@stillgray) January 11, 2022
I'm saying "may need help to not be a stalker" because a healthy person should be able to cope with rejection, but not everyone is a healthy person.
And when you have sexuality but you feel guilty about it then repressing it yourself may not really help you operate in life.
Had a roommate who was a nofap guy but failed a lot and made sure to tell me how distraught he was every time he failed (yes, it was TMI but also I felt bad for him and couldn't convince him it's normal to do that). And that was for something that is okay to do where the solution is being okay with you own sexuality; not one where you should never act on it and feel shame about it.
People snap and idk if being a non-abusing pedo is more like a sexuality you can't help, or something curable that's just because you had something fucked up happen to u as a kid, an intrusive thought that you're scared of acting on but won't, etc.
I also don't think every child-abuser is a pedo, some probably do it for power just like rapists not necessarily doing it out of sexual attraction to a person and being ignorant about consent, but wanting to hurt someone or not caring about the personhood of the person they rape.
Maybe you're right and the ones who don't try and justify it never commit to doing it and just spend their lives running away from kids as much as possible on their own. But that doesn't mean some won't fall down the rabbit hole of slowly justifying more and more bad stuff over time. Same way men aren't owed sex but incels escalate and justify that they are and should've had help to keep seeing women as people.
I notice that convicted abusers try and justify a 5 year old giving them sexual signals, and they distort kids being kids into wanting to be abused. Idk if that's sickness from birth or not that escalated from a point where they knew it was wrong; but definitely needs help.
Because if you're fantasizing about doing stuff to kids in the first place, to me that's like fantasizing about murder or rape and something you should get help for.
I'm saying "may need help to not be a stalker" because a healthy person should be able to cope with rejection, but not everyone is a healthy person.
And when you have sexuality but you feel guilty about it then repressing it yourself may not really help you operate in life.
Had a roommate who was a nofap guy but failed a lot and made sure to tell me how distraught he was every time he failed (yes, it was TMI but also I felt bad for him and couldn't convince him it's normal to do that). And that was for something that is okay to do where the solution is being okay with you own sexuality; not one where you should never act on it and feel shame about it.
People snap and idk if being a non-abusing pedo is more like a sexuality you can't help, or something curable that's just because you had something fucked up happen to u as a kid, an intrusive thought that you're scared of acting on but won't, etc.
I also don't think every child-abuser is a pedo, some probably do it for power just like rapists not necessarily doing it out of sexual attraction to a person and being ignorant about consent, but wanting to hurt someone or not caring about the personhood of the person they rape.
Maybe you're right and the ones who don't try and justify it never commit to doing it and just spend their lives running away from kids as much as possible on their own. But that doesn't mean some won't fall down the rabbit hole of slowly justifying more and more bad stuff over time. Same way men aren't owed sex but incels escalate and justify that they are and should've had help to keep seeing women as people.
I notice that convicted abusers try and justify a 5 year old giving them sexual signals, and they distort kids being kids into wanting to be abused. Idk if that's sickness from birth or not that escalated from a point where they knew it was wrong; but definitely needs help.
Because if you're fantasizing about doing stuff to kids in the first place, to me that's like fantasizing about murder or rape and something you should get help for.