Because I have been able to help build up my confidence a bit more; but I am still Introverted and have Social anxiety; I thought it would be good to at least befriend (the site can be used for making friends) a woman who has confidence and knows what she wants in life; most of the girls in my campus are younger than me, and are in a lot of cases, not really emotionally mature. I am an Asexual Heteroromantic guy; I seek a friendship with perhaps a woman, (since I have always been able to hang out better with them) but because I have Autism, I can never understand hints, who is perhaps older (I am 22) so she can shed off immature habits like sending mixed signals, and/or is straight to the point; would Bumble be good for that?

  • Ericthescruffy [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    so she can shed off immature habits like sending mixed signals, and/or is straight to the point; would Bumble be good for that?

    This is a bad characterization and a red flag as other posters have said....but I'm going to interpret it charitably since we're viewing it in the context of an app (IE, you both swiped right so you can't be misreading that there's an attraction) and I think you might be referring more to the fact that people in general are pretty bad at being clear/direct/open about what they're actually looking for in dating apps.

    Regarding this: I can confirm that doesn't ever really go away. All that really changes with Bumble's format is that it incentivizes women to be a bit more generous with their swipes because they get a second chance to change their mind before they run the risk of having their inbox overloaded with grossness. People in general are bad about being direct and/or being straight to the point because whether its biological or cultural human courtship is a weird messy confusing process that has a lot of push and pull and steps to navigate, and people are bad at being honest about what they want because the sad depressing truth is that most people honestly don't really know what they're looking for when they put themselves out there on the dating apps. Some do to be sure...but most people are kinda just making it up as they go.