My life would be a lot easier if I could answer this on my own.

  • Dirt_Owl [comrade/them, they/them]
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    5 months ago

    It takes time, sometimes years. Be kind to yourself and let yourself feel your feelings in a healthy way.

    Also helps if you imagine they're a huge lib that likes Harry Potter and Funkos

  • FearsomeJoeandmac [any]
    hexbear
    5
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    5 months ago

    Lol I have that same shit going on. Some blonde haired cute girl I had a crush on in high school and I was smitten.

    We kind of flirted back and forth a bit and she came over a few times to hang out with me alone and watch a movie. My socially obvious ass didn't realize that if I asked, I probably could've gotten a kiss or maybe something more during those times?

    Anyways she lost interest eventually as sometimes happens and I've just had to let her go. Sometimes I'll still see her around on social media. But it will never happen even though I still think she's just so gorgeous. It's hard my friend, but it will lessen over time

      • @greenhorn@lemm.ee
        hexbear
        5
        5 months ago

        Same happened with me developing a crush on my boss. When you fight it you make it a thing, I'm finding it better to not deny the attraction but more intentionally notice other parts of her and our dynamic to train my mind to focus on those things. Also reminding myself each time I day dream that that relationship isn't possible so think of something else. I'm almost a month into the process, results are promising

      • FearsomeJoeandmac [any]
        hexbear
        3
        5 months ago

        It happens man. It happens. I've had co workers I'd like to ask out too.

        • @GinAndJuche
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          5 months ago

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