we don't let users get away with derisively referring to effeminate men as that, because it's fucked up. and we don't let people call people that here because it's racist, and context matters, but we don't let other people refer to others as the friendly use of the blatantly racist n word without a hard r either, despite them having different meanings entirely, because this isn't the place to battle that. there is no reappropriation that can occur nor is necessary as far as this term goes - and as repeated, the word fruit in the way it's meant to be used is an every day term. the word spook is not and is easily replaceable.