I have had european friends who most of the time have good takes on refugees, social justice, capitalism, and so on, confide to me that when it feels geographically close, it just feels different. I think it's hard to fully decolonize your rational mind, and your emotions/automatic reactions are even harder. They acknowledge that it's a shitty thing to feel, and that they should not act like they care more, but they are scared for themselves and their families, and that's a very human thing to do.