I know her from her animated Pokémon nuzlocke runs
Idk if she does stuff outside of that lol
I heavily relate to the first part of this video from my experience as a closeted lesbian: realizing you should be having crushes by now, mechanically selecting a boy to like, waiting every year for the guys your age to finally become attractive... I thought that maybe I didn't find any boys good-looking because they matured at a different rate and just weren't done growing yet? Or maybe I was just very picky? I was so determined to be bisexual instead of lesbian. I really thought I could make it work. And it was just like she described, slowly realizing that some fundamental elements were missing from my feelings about men. I am very much allosexual but I actually thought I was ace for a while because I clearly didn't have feelings for dudes but I was still refusing to explore my feelings for women.
I really thought I could make it work. And it was just like she described, slowly realizing that some fundamental elements were missing from my feelings about men.
God same, expect for me my "404 error" was having sex with a woman as a man. Like I literally told people it felt like I was dividing by zero. And I felt so broken because of that.
Realizing I was trans after trying to rationalize the other way for so long and struggling and steeping in denial is so ridiculous. It sucks it still takes so many of us so long but I'm happy to see a video like this because even if someone isn't aro/ace it helps convey that someone might not know they're be their exact identity once they're born.
Like it was refreshing to watch and made me feel more secure in my identity because I didn't relate to a lot of what Jaiden was saying! Whereas I was absolutely shattered when I realized how much I had in common with trans and even cis lesbians.
I always got ace vibes from Jaiden, congrats to her for coming out!
i'm demi aroace!!
it took me a while to figure out the labeling, but it makes sense -- i've lived this way much all my dating life; it takes me like, literally half a year to develop a strong bond with someone, and that's still a maybe. And it can't be interrupted, or else it'll have to start over.
I can be comfortable flirting, but intimacy takes time. My trust takes a lot of work to build.
I can develop loving feelings for people, given time.
I do get "crush" feelings, but I think they are extremely impulse related. Like I want attention, and will seek it out. And then I will be like "just verbal praise but nothing else, ty."
So I recognize that and actively temper my crushing :p If they end up being trustworthy I'll get the attention I want anyways!
I'm not asexual and even I got the whole "wait people writing love songs actually feel that way? They're not joking?" bit.
I'm not sure the people writing them are doing so earnestly, but the people listening to them certainly are feeling that way.
To an extent, but I've always find them to be at best grossly hyperbolic. I feel like real romance is shit like "hey lets go to that Diner we like that's open 24 hours after our late night sexcapades" or "wanna make Ramen and watch the Pokemon cartoon on my mom's netflix?" not "MY HEART BURNS WITH THE FIRE OF THE PASSION OF YOUR LOVE BABY!!!!!!!"
I'm completely in agreement with you, but there are a lot of people, particularly teenagers navigating intense new emotions, who are all about their heartburn or whatever. Personally I think a lot of it is self-obsession, caring more about how you feel and how someone else makes you feel than caring about your partner or their feelings.
I love corny love songs
I don't even love anyone but I love corny love songs I don't know why
This was very comforting to watch as someone who is having a lot of trouble coming to terms with being on the ace spectrum. 🥺
