I don't consider myself particularly interesting, but I would say my interests are vastly different from the average guy on dating apps

I don't know how to say this without sounding pretentious, but I prefer intellectual conversation over nights at the bar or whatever. I just want to be able to share the thoughts I have floating around my head with someone, ya know? When I'm not on hexbear.net, I play guitar, draw, write and enjoy analyzing different types of media and digging into the meaning of stuff

Stream of consciousness slop, I know, but I'm super high and my thoughts are firing off. Can anyone relate or see where I'm coming from?

  • Cummunism [they/them, he/him]
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    3 years ago

    There are ways to tell the truth about what's important to you without scaring them away. Say left politics instead of communist or whatever. Mention hobbies, take pictures that show you enjoying those hobbies(if possible). But yea, i think with any kind of dating, online or not, you can't be totally yourself right away. You have to ease them into it. You have to get to a friendship level before you can let loose. Nobody should act totally the same around a new person as they would a long time friend.

    • stigsbandit34z [they/them]
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      3 years ago

      I guess I never had to deal with these sort of issues when I was younger. Now that I'm living alone and have a bit more time for self exploration, I'm realizing what I actually enjoy is vastly different than whatever charade I put on when I'm out in public.

      • Cummunism [they/them, he/him]
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        3 years ago

        youll still need to be mostly honest, but you gotta massage the truth sometimes with a new person. And i didnt know shit about dating until quite a few years after high school but online dating made it much more comfortable to have an intro. Plus I wasnt going up to people in bars for random conversations. Bleh.

        Also, and i hate myself a little for recommending this, but Tinder works wayyyyy better if you pay for it. You can superlike someone and it will notify them and you dont have to wait for them to match with you and they can choose if they want to respond.

        • stigsbandit34z [they/them]
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          3 years ago

          Alrighty, appreciate the advice! I have some money to spare, so I might go that route :shrug-outta-hecks:

    • stigsbandit34z [they/them]
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      3 years ago

      Yeah that's a really good point. I guess this side of me only really comes out when I'm drunk or high, so who knows if my friends even know the "real me"

      I feel like having to mask to appear "normal" has been a net negative on my life 😔