This might be too specific, but I'm 25 and just moved to a new city, reconnected with a few old friends, and it is extremely awkward being around them as a "fifth wheel" (they both have long-term gfs) and it feels like I'm just killing the vibe of the double dates as a single man

Anyone else ever find themselves in a similar situation? It sucks

Imo, you're really just kinda boned if you have no way to establish a sense of community later in life (in the United States at least). I lost my religious faith in high school and really wish I wouldn't have.

  • Hohsia [he/him]
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    3 years ago

    Meeting people after University/College does suck though as everyone is so disconnected we only ever really talk to people at work regularly

    Exactly. And I am considering quitting my corporate cubicle 9-5 because I have established better relationships in the past at minimum wage jobs. But that's an extremely difficult decision considering the price of housing and necessities and taking into account the fact that the minimum wage is still a poverty wage (15/hr isn't nearly enough I'm sorry)

      • Hohsia [he/him]
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        3 years ago

        I can try, though we're mostly remote right now so it's a bit difficult

        and tbf, most of them absolutely love Marvel and I just can't get into it. I say that because it's usually all they talk about 💀

        • Parent [none/use name]
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          3 years ago

          Yeah I feel you making friends at a remote desk job seems impossible. I also dislike Marvel. Maybe join an adult sports team? If you're in a bigger city could do a reading group or a DSA.

          • LoudMuffin [he/him]
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            3 years ago

            If you’re in a bigger city could do a reading group or a DSA

            do all orgs have reading groups? I have considered joining solely for a reading group cuz I find reading theory alone makes me feel fokken' suicidal

            at least in person you can build a Jenga Tower of Communism :lt-dbyf-dubois:

            • machiabelly [she/her]
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              3 years ago

              Yeah I was in a pedagogy of the oppressed reading group at mine. Any DSA chapter of any size should always have a reading group going.

            • Parent [none/use name]
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              3 years ago

              Yeah I think having reading groups is common. Universitys do too if you have one around you. You could also just join regular reading groups for novels and what not. Still a good way to meet people.