This might be too specific, but I'm 25 and just moved to a new city, reconnected with a few old friends, and it is extremely awkward being around them as a "fifth wheel" (they both have long-term gfs) and it feels like I'm just killing the vibe of the double dates as a single man

Anyone else ever find themselves in a similar situation? It sucks

Imo, you're really just kinda boned if you have no way to establish a sense of community later in life (in the United States at least). I lost my religious faith in high school and really wish I wouldn't have.

  • Quimby [any, any]
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    3 years ago

    I'll try to keep it short. But yeah, I was in that position. When I was 26, a friend convinced me to try online dating. I went on a few dates, got my confidence back up, and then met the love of my life. Now I'm happily married.

    • Hohsia [he/him]
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      3 years ago

      I guess you need pictures of yourself to do online dating though :sadness-abysmal:

      • machiabelly [she/her]
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        3 years ago

        You're doing your cubicle job for the money. Take advantage of that. Get a facial, a nice haircut, some stylish clothes, a manicure. I don't think most men realize how desperate straight women are for men who will treat them well and take care of themselves.

        Taking the subway made me way less insecure because I saw couples together that made me realize that there is someone for everyone.

        Love creates beauty, just do whatever it takes to find someone you connect with and do what you can to make it work :cat-trans: