My former best friend refused to say a damn thing when my fiancee dumped me and my mom nearly died in the same week. When I called them out on it, they said they didn't owe me the emotional labor.
Relationships, of all kinds, are living things. They need to be tended to, or else they turn sour.
What saddens me most is that they used to be aware of this shit. They were among the most influential people in pushing me to the left and now they got a serious case of :brainworms:
Shortly beforehand they speculated to me about a mutual friend of ours being a tankie because he was insufficiently critical of China.
I suppose that's one way of looking at it. The other way was that the relationship was always performative and extractive and only existed when it benefitted the asshat.
Can't say either way without having been there, but if any of my friends shut me out of sympathy at my lowest time, I'd consider them a pretender.
I suppose you're right in some regards. It certainly became that way towards the end. If it was truly performative from the beginning, they managed to fool a lot of very perceptive people.
My former best friend refused to say a damn thing when my fiancee dumped me and my mom nearly died in the same week. When I called them out on it, they said they didn't owe me the emotional labor.
Relationships, of all kinds, are living things. They need to be tended to, or else they turn sour.
sorry that's really messed up.. fuck i hate this transactional shit we have been brainwashed into
What saddens me most is that they used to be aware of this shit. They were among the most influential people in pushing me to the left and now they got a serious case of :brainworms:
Shortly beforehand they speculated to me about a mutual friend of ours being a tankie because he was insufficiently critical of China.
They were never your best friend :deeper-sadness:
This seems like a kinda toxic way of looking at it. That they eventually became a shithead doesn't invalidate the times that were good.
I suppose that's one way of looking at it. The other way was that the relationship was always performative and extractive and only existed when it benefitted the asshat.
Can't say either way without having been there, but if any of my friends shut me out of sympathy at my lowest time, I'd consider them a pretender.
I suppose you're right in some regards. It certainly became that way towards the end. If it was truly performative from the beginning, they managed to fool a lot of very perceptive people.
What the fuck